Posted by : Helen Ollerenshaw
Where does a Norse god fit?
A while ago, I had a client who to look at was big and wild and carried scars on his face and body. This man was named after a Norse god and he lived life as if he were that god big and loud and full of feasting and wild nights, but, he was miserable.
You see he didn’t fit, he was living in a town that is quite conservative, a town full of administrators and national museums and memorials and people who save water and have solar power on their roofs and cycle to work. Now there is absolutely nothing wrong with that lifestyle, this is the beauty of this world we can choose a quintillion, different ways to live, if you can imagine it you can live it.
For the Norse god the only way he could live in this town was on the fringes, and he was desperately miserable and had considered ending his life more than once. For all his big bold warrior lifestyle he had a very gentle heart, he was respectful and intelligent and just wanted to be accepted to just fit in. The problem was not him, the problem was were he was living, he had tried, for years to fit in, whatever he did he didn’t fit and felt like an outcast.
The solution was easy truly easy, he wanted to work hard and play hard and live a big life so we uncovered his dream job, deep sea fishing working on commercial boats. We found the best place he could live and find that type of work in a community where he would be one of many not one of few and for him that was up north. We created a transition plan to his new ideal life, which included people he could connect with when he first arrived.
This Norse god procrastinated for a while and put off this change, he didn’t think it would work, with some support he took the first step and his life changed.
Some people might think how could you support someone to live a life where they drank and ate too much and partied too hard, but you know, there is no right or wrong there are only choices, and for the life he lived he lived within the law.
His life changed dramatically with his move, he fitted into a community where many people worked hard and played hard, he was out at sea for six weeks at a time, and at sea all he could do was work, there was no drinking, no wild parties and no where to spend money.
He was happy, really happy for the first time in as long as he could remember, he was accepted into a community that didn’t see him as scary or wild or someone to be afraid of he was seen as a hard working man and he began to get ahead, to save money, to plan for a future, he drank less and ate better, his life changed.
You see sometimes it is not the person or the behaviour that is the problem, sometimes it is just the fit. We are not all made to be the same and live the same lives, how utterly boring would that be, we need adventurers, and risk takers and wild men and travelers and warriors, as much as we need chefs and poets and administrators and artists and dancers, so ask yourself....
Do you fit into your current life? Or Do you need to find a place where you do fit?
Do you want to fit in to your current life? If you do then.. What do you need to change to fit?
Remember, if you stay within societies boundaries there is no right or wrong, there is only a quintillion choices, and if you are looking for a new fit or to fit in LifEthereal has the tools to help you find your fit.
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